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Hey Sizz,

Let me ask you something—have you ever looked in the mirror and not recognized the woman staring back at you? Maybe it’s the exhaustion in her eyes, or the heaviness in her heart. You try to keep loving, giving, supporting, and showing up for him. But somewhere along the way, you’ve stopped showing up for yourself.

The truth is, loving him shouldn’t cost you your identity. But too often, we don’t realize we’re lost until we’re drowning. And by then? We’re deep in the cycle—unsure how to pull ourselves back up.

If that’s you—if you’ve been feeling like loving him means losing you—it’s time to reclaim your identity. And Sis, this isn’t about surface-level self-care. It’s about getting honest about where and why you’ve disappeared. Let’s talk about the real work that needs to happen:

1. Stop Using 'Love' as an Excuse to Abandon Yourself​
   Here’s the truth: love doesn’t mean abandoning who you are. If you’ve convinced yourself that sacrificing your wants, needs, or dreams is what a good partner does—you’ve lied to yourself. We’ve been taught that love is about giving everything, but what about giving to you? You need to love yourself enough to not disappear in someone else’s shadow. Abandoning yourself is not love—it’s neglect, plain and simple.
2. Get Honest About Why You’re Afraid to Speak Up​
   Sis, why are you really afraid to speak your truth? Is it fear of rejection? Fear of being seen as too much? Or is it the fear of what happens when you actually own your voice? Too often, we don’t speak up because we’re afraid of rocking the boat. But here’s a hard truth: if your silence is what’s keeping the peace, it’s a false peace. If your relationship can’t handle you being honest, what kind of foundation are you building on? You’ve got to speak up, even when it’s uncomfortable.
3. Stop Saying 'Yes' to Everything That Drains You​
   Let’s be real—how many times have you said 'yes' to things that you didn’t want to do just to keep the peace, make him happy, or avoid feeling guilty? That’s not love, Sis. That’s people-pleasing. And every time you say 'yes' to what drains you, you’re saying 'no' to your own well-being. You can’t keep giving from an empty cup. Start saying 'no' without apology. Your time, energy, and sanity are worth protecting. You have permission to prioritize you.
4. Confront the Reality That You’ve Lost Yourself in Roles That Don’t Define You​
   Here’s a hard truth: being a wife, mother, or partner does not define who you are. Those roles are just one part of you. But if you’ve allowed those titles to become your whole identity, you’ve lost yourself. Ask yourself: Who am I outside of these roles? What dreams did I once have that I’ve let die because I told myself there wasn’t room for them? You need to confront the fact that you’ve let parts of yourself slip away, and it’s time to reclaim them.
5. Understand That Reclaiming Your Identity Will Make People Uncomfortable—And That’s Okay​
   Let’s keep it real Sizz—when you start to reclaim your identity and prioritize yourself, not everyone’s going to like it. People, especially the ones closest to you, are going to notice the shift. They may push back, question you, or try to guilt you into staying the same. And here’s the truth: that discomfort isn’t your problem to fix. Reclaiming your identity isn’t just about you—it’s about redefining how others see you and how you see yourself. Let them be uncomfortable. You’ve been uncomfortable long enough, haven’t you?

Sizz, it’s time to stop shrinking. Stop playing small. Stop disappearing. Loving him doesn’t have to mean losing yourself. It’s time to love you again. Take up space. Own your voice. Reclaim your identity. Because at the end of the day, if you’re not showing up for you, how can you show up for anyone else?

You’ve got this.

Heart Spaces Wellness & Lifestyle Brunch – Coming Next Month!

I’m super excited to remind you about the upcoming Heart Spaces Wellness & Lifestyle Brunch on October 26th in Dallas! 🎉

We’re diving deep into everything from reclaiming your identity to transforming your life after major transitions like divorce or career changes. It’s all about reimagining your life and taking control of your journey.

And guess what? You can now buy now and pay later with Affirm or Afterpay! 🙌 So, no need to stress about the full ticket price upfront—take your time and pay in installments.

Whether you’re opting for the General Admission or treating yourself to the VIP Brunch Experience, you have flexible payment options to make sure you don’t miss out!

I can’t wait to see you there and share in this unforgettable experience. 💖

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Got questions or specific topics you want me to cover in my emails sent out to you? I’m all ears! If there’s something you’re struggling with or areas in your life where you need guidance, let me know. I want to make sure to speak directly to where you are right now
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Sizzle Boldly,
​ Demi